I remember the days when I was in primary school. There were more than 20 of us in my circle of good friends. We see each other daily in school but go our own ways during school breaks. Of more than 20 friends, a few remain my good friends until today. So, I am proud to say that at the age of 46, I have good friends whom I have known for 40 years. But do I have true friends?
Friendship is not something one seeks. It occurs when we meet people and find common activities to engage in and topics to talk about. Friends could be classmates and batch mates. They could also be the sons and daughters of our parents’ friends. Friends could also be the people we work with, the people we work for. Even the occasional strangers we meet could end up becoming our friends.
As the years went by, I learned to differentiate friends from acquaintances. More than a decade ago, a friend said:We don’t need a lot of friends because we only need true friends even if it’s just one person. Click To Tweet
Through the years, there were friends I had known for years whom I trusted but abandoned me. So, I had seen so-called friends in their many forms and manifestations.
Some were with me because they liked my company and the good times we shared. But take away the good times and they’re gone. Others called me a friend because of need, or because I listen to them and they need someone to talk to. But take away the need and they’re gone.
Today, there is a small group of people who belong to my inner circle. In fact, these people are family to me, as I am to them. How could I not have such affection for them when they were the ones who were there for me when I need them the most?
There is a limit to friendship and so knowing who true friends are could only come during a crisis. For it is during the worst of times that true friends come to you.
True friends care enough to listen and understand. They help in any way they could. Furthermore, true friends prove loyalty knows no boundaries. For better or worse, true friends are there.
I know so because that is what I saw with my few true friends.
Do you know who your true friends are?
Are you true to your friends?