Do you have goals and know what you need to do? So why is it so difficult to do the things you need to do? Of course, you knew there would be challenges here and obstacles there. But what is stopping you from achieving your goals? Could the power of positive thinking help you?
A Few Excuses
Instinctively, people come up with reasons why goals were not achieved.
For those who do not have goals, to begin with, that should be self-explanatory.
But how about those who have plans and clear goals?
Finding reasons can both be good and bad.
It is good if the reasons became learning to effect change. But if the reasons are for justification, then they become excuses.
Here are a few excuses (reasons) I could think of that most people use.
Fear. No matter how motivated a person is, inspired even, the fear of failure is hard to overcome. The thought of failure itself can stop a person cold in his tracks.
Time. It is hard for people to admit to their shortcomings. Instead of being honest, the use time (or lack of time) as an excuse.
Situation. Next to refusing to admit to procrastinating or making mistakes, people blame. It’s because of this or that, but never because of one’s self.
There is only one solution to negative thinking and that is positive thinking.
How You Think
Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it. – Lou Holtz
Coaching people to be successful is not only about the ability or skills. In fact, it is only a small part of what makes a person successful.
For example, our team XTRM 1-11 understands the importance of positive thinking. Thinking of reasons why goals are difficult is a hindrance to success. But being positive sets the right tone for people to get going.
Attitude is not only about character, how you feel, and how you respond. It is also about how you think.
All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts. – James Allen
To explain in depth how you think, I have chosen to feature the work of Alison Ledgerwood.
In addition to her academic appointment in the Department of Psychology, Alison Ledgerwood is the principal investigator for the Attitudes and Group Identity Lab.
Alison’s research centers on the psychological tools that enable humans to move beyond their immediate experience. Her methodological interests focus on promoting methods and practices that can increase the informational value of psychological research.
The National Science Foundation and the Hellman Family Foundation has funded Alison’s research.
Alison serves as an associate editor of Perspectives on Psychological Science. She is also on the editorial boards of the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General and Social Cognition.
– University of California, Davis
Here she is speaking at a TEDx conference. Please watch the video before continuing.
How You Act
A man is but a product of his thoughts. What he thinks he becomes. – Mahatma Gandhi
Anything that comes between you and your goals is negativities. After watching the video, it should be clear to you that how you think is critical to your success.
With that in mind, it is important to manage your emotion and how you think. Once you dwell on negativity, it is hard to return to positive thinking.
For some people, coping with the negatives include binge eating or doing non-productive things. The lesser the time spent on non-productivity, the better.
How you feel and think influences how you act.
By harnessing the power of positive thinking, you will get back on track sooner.
Negative or Positive Thinking
“Why does a failure stick in our minds so much more than a success?” Alison Ledgerwood asked. “Do our minds get stuck in the negatives?”
You can the same thing in either negative or positive term.
Look at the glass.
When you describe the glass as half-full, that is a gain and you like it. But when you describe is as half-empty, that is a loss and you don’t like it.
In other words, how you perceive has an effect on how you feel. And how you feel has an effect on how you act.
“Our view of the world has a fundamental tendency to tilt towards the negative,” says Alison Ledgerwood
Start with negativity and chances are, you will linger on negativity.
If you want to achieve success, then never allow negative emotions and thoughts.
Why do successful people keep telling you to stay positive?
It’s because they understand how powerful positive thinking is. Successful people use positive thinking, not only attract success but also to eat obstacles and challenges for breakfast.